What makes me really sad is that warped, crazy, poorly trained, ill-equipped, mentally ill therapist win when we clients begin to dump abuse and/or resentment onto each other when it comes to lousy psychotherapy/psychotherapist. The thing I like about this forum is that we're able to post and talk about things that confuse or anger about our own therapy.. . .we get to ask about whether or not what we're experiencing in therapy is something others have experienced or something out of synch. What saddens me is when we begin to diss each other or tear each other down for what we've experienced or believed. I get it that we all see things through a different lens, after all, we all have different life experiences, but to just call each others experiences silly or out of touch or delusional, is disrespectful and hurtful. I don't always agree with people on here, but I sure try to express my opinion and then let the other person know that my opinion is just that, one person's opinion, not the end all to be all.

I do think that psychotherapy has a long way to go to being perfect! I do believe that many people are harmed by the process, especially by poorly trained therapist who have no invested interest in improving their skills. I do think that the schools of clinical psychotherapy/clinical social work are flawed in their approached to training, but I don't think we throw out the baby with the baby. I KNOW through personal experience that there are many caring and well trained therapists, not enough, but they are out there. What makes me sad is the attacks and resentment toward people who do well in their therapy, as if they are one step away from tragedy that they are too stupid to realize.

I am a person who has struggled and NOT found a solid and good therapeutic relationship. But I have been able to realize over time that this is my failing not the good therapists I've contacted. And I have had contact with some duds! But I've also had contact with some really solid therapists that I, "ME" wasn't able to stay connected with. . . that is my issue, not their's.

What I'm trying to say, if it isn't obvious at this point, is that therapy is a dual undertaking==the client AND the therapist have a responsibility in the undertaking. The client needs to be well-informed about therapy, interested and engaged in the process and the therapist needs to be well=trained, well informed, and interested in the process. Both parties need to communicate clearly, the therapist needs to be better equipped in this area than the client and both need to speak up and let the other person know what they're thinking. Not an easy thing, but something both are RESPONSIBLIE FOR!! Jeesh people, neither individual is solely responsible!