I'm sorry to hear about your circumstances at home.

To answer your question, as a family, we all were in therapy at this point. Sometimes it was just the step-son and then it was the three of us. It didn't take long for the, actually three therapists/Dr.'s, to see how troubled my step son was. He even threatened to punch the therapist in the mouth if she said something he didn't like etc. Yea... I know. Crazy huh? Thank gosh that I wasn't the only one in the room that day and the therapist heard him say it herself. Otherwise, my husband would have never believed me. We went to intense therapy for many months, several times a month at the end. I was desperate to get him help so that he could find a way to stay in the home, but to no avail. He was terribly disruptive to even his siblings. School teachers, bus drivers etc. could hardly deal with him. He thrived off of the disruption and I just wasn't going to give him the platform anymore.

It wasn't just an "off-handed" dark comment. It is the totality of his issues that bother me.