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Originally Posted by healingme4me
That last sentence is a prime example of the downside of not holding others accountable for their own actions and behaviours.
It's a rescue tendency. Of course we are human and imperfect and each person has a way of behaving in their own individual way, at the same time we, as humans are accountable for our own actions.
Are you excusing behavior at the expense of your own limitations? At the expense of your own piece of mind? Are you losing other friends over it?
Maybe there isn't blame, per se, but there is choice and free will.
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The thing about the blame that I take on is that it would be impossible for me to ever not experience blame when I hold myself to the standards that I do. I will blame myself for ridiculous things that no one could have seen coming, and I will tell myself that I was an idiot for not having thought of it. I haven't lost friends over it. I don't have many, and the ones I do have are extremely close to me. But I have most definitely sacrificed peace of mind, and I have most definitely ignored normal human limitations when blaming myself for things that no human could have caught.
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"Do not be deceived, Wormwood. Our cause is never more in danger than when a human, no longer desiring, but still intending, to do our Enemy's will, looks round upon a universe from which every trace of Him seems to have vanished, and asks why he has been forsaken, and still obeys." -CS Lewis, the Screwtape Letters
Teen with (probably severe) depression
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