Hi Situsso. Welcome to Psych Central. Sorry to hear you are suffering from low self esteem. That is not a problem with you but a problem with the opinions you have about yourself. Opinions can be changed.

17 is young. Young women are fearful and anxious about dating. Becoming a friend to a woman builds trust and confidence. From their seeing someone is more possible.

I cannot give you advice to solve your problem because I do not know what is practical in your country, but as I stop trying to get something from others and learn to listen and respond to what they are saying and feeling, people feel like I am a friend.