I dont see it as high standards - i see it as low standards. Anybody can do whatever they want and get away with it, with us. When we were kids, we HAD to put up with this behavior from our parents. They expected perfection from me, but not from themselves.

I was so afraid of breaking away from this pattern, i let good opportunities slip thru my fingers. Good relationships where people saw the good in me, but i couldnt see the good in them, because - im not really sure why! I was so used to overlooking bad behavior. This is my biggest regret in life.