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Originally Posted by brainhi
You are doing a great job thinking this out... you said..
but I think I am attracted to "who he may be".
Actions mean EVERYTHING. You can have some harmless "thoughts" without coming up with a romantic entanglement in your own head.
Find other things to think about - unless at one point - his actions show you who he really is... and then it still takes months to find out if it was real or was he on his best behavior.
Sorry you feel lonely. It's not helpful to idealize what you think might be going on with people who are in relationships... and that you might be missing out.
You can get passionate about other things... if some other time you do meet someone, you still have other things going on that mean a lot to you.
I hope you find other things that make your heart sing... and if it is a man... let him show you who he is through his actions!!!!!
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Yes that is true, as long as I dont entangle myself into somthing its not harmful. I dont think I have had any thoughts like this about someone who is not really my type. Like the other replier said to me. I did think about how it would be to be with him, but in a nasty way. I guess thats normal. I like his company. Maybe I will be in his company again one day soon.
I dont know who he really is, so if being in his company again, only time would tell.That is right. It seems like we both feel its good to be a bit alone. I dont know what he was thinking but I do think if he liked my company he will ask me down again
I was wondering why I felt jealous. Maybe its because I am afraid losing the friendship. That I am attracted to him because I dont know who he may be. I know its not good to be attracted to a man, for any reason when he may be an abuser. Maybe the nasty thoughts happened because of something in me that turns on dominant men.