Hmm. Interesting question.

Probably one of the decisions that made the most impact in my life was to completely cut any contact with one particular person. It involved setting some very firm boundaries that impacted more people than just myself, and of course, there were consequences to that for all involved. In the long-run, it was one of the healthiest and most proactive decisions I ever made (and at the advice of a therapist). It was stressful at the time, but it was the beginning of truly living with respect for myself.

Second to that, but along the same lines, was my decision to be well. When my sister passed away, the whole family was utterly devastated. I had spent years and years on the brink of suicide and in constant depression. It hit me how my own death, particularly by suicide, would be absolutely ruinous to my husband, my children, my parents, my friends. About that same time, two friends in my life did commit suicide. I knew I had to make major changes in my life, my outlook, my decisions, my behaviors, everything. It was a very conscious, deliberate decision to start using the tools and support at my disposal to live a healthy life, both physically and emotionally -- no excuses. It required taking huge risks, making decisions that went counter my usual default, deliberately deciding to move forward. That was a scary decision and absolutely the best thing I ever did for myself, my family, my career, my life.