*shrugs* I've had opposite experience, my mom is always told how amazing of a mother she was, despite the fact that she was so wrapped up in her own problems that she didn't even realize what my dad and her boyfriend were doing to me. She was an awful mother, but because she put up with my dad and us three kids while going through all of her mental problems, everyone thinks she's great. I mean, yes my dad was awful too, and a horrible person, but she deserves some of the blame as well for not doing anything about it when she could have.