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Originally Posted by Gavinandnikki
Many people that seek theray have been starved and deprived of a figure of authority that listened to them, showed interest in them, paid attention to them and showed a caring, if not loving, stance.
So, off we go to therapy and OMG, there IS someone who does many, if not alll, of those things.
How alluring. How addictive. This person is all about ME. What every young child needs and wants and here they are (albeit they're getting paid).
For many people, a therapist is giving them what they have missed their entire lives!
Not so easy to walk away from, even if the therapist sucks.
Just saying.
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Right. That's exactly what I was saying re: attachment. I think it's this dynamic that leads to lot of the disconnect when people talk about therapy. Those who have not experienced this tend to say things like "why didnt you just stop" or "get over it" or "how could you become dependent on a therapist".
What is particularly dangerous is when the T does suck but the C is responding to their attunement and mirroring. You can become dependent on an abusive or incompetent caretaker. It happened to me. I still feel like an addict wanting my fix again, have tried for months to get it back, even though my rational brain knows ex T made a mess of it.