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Originally Posted by Brokenhead
We're still living together and he's been spending a lot of time texting someone and I don't know who...he told me he had mentioned his attraction in therapy and she admitted hers, too. They terminated back in November and he said they'd be together if they could. He gave me a book to read and I realized she'd given it to him (maybe while still in therapy, I don't know), cause there was a boarding pass with her name on it from last year...if I have his phone records and trace her number, would that help?
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you could report to the ethics board but let me show you something....
your words you dont know who he was texting. so it could have been anyone on this earth.
your words the book was given to him but it could have been while still in therapy , therapists do give their clients books to read if theres something in the book they are working on. with out his permission you cant have access to his therapy files so who knows what they were discussing and why his therapist gave him the book.
he admitted his attraction and so did the therapist...well thats also part of the therapy process some locations the therapeutic term for this discussion is called discussing attachments and relationships. I tell my therapist she has a fantastic rear view (behind) and she tells me I have fantastic eyes, her attraction to people is eyes and mine is rear views. I have told my therapist I love and am attracted to her and she has said the same thing but it was in context of a therapeutic discussion on sex, relationship, attractions, fantasy ....that doesnt mean my therapist and I are dating or will ever date. it just means we are being honest with each other and working the therapeutic process around such topics.
your words he said they would be together if they could...well obviously something is preventing them from being together otherwise he would have said we are together and not include the words if we could. theres also the context of how and when he said that. sometimes people say things like this to make the other jealous or said out of anger or show someone they are holding on to them too tight with no room to breath so to speak...gosh there are so many ways he could have meant this depending upon what the full situation/cntext it was said in was...
phone records and tracing will only show he called her...we dont whether he's back in treatment with her or trying to set up reentering treatment with her. phone records are not going to tell you what their conversation was...
my point is that if you reported in my location based on what you posted it would be thrown out as unfounded and possibly marked down as a false allegation based on your mental problems or your seeing things that are not proven.
in order for you to win a case like this you basically need photos of the two actually out on a date holding hands.....
you also need to prove this was going on while he was still in treatment with her. NY has a dual relationship law that does allow treatment providers and ex clients to become romantically involved. so you would have to have access to his mental health records to show their supposed romance was going on before the ethics law allowed them to. to get that this person would need to sign a release form for you to have copies of his records...
see what I mean you live in america so you can report anyone for anything but that does not mean you will win the court case of an ethics hearing.