I have the same problem, as a child i was never encourage to express my emotions, in fact, I feel I was very repress and now 41 i have major issues, specially at home, when i have a problem i start crying and i can't talk, always the situation turns as if i am at fault because i can say nothing and issues are not resolve, just get bigger. At work i don't have the same problem i think it is because as part of my education i had HR classes and i was tough to give bad news to employees and i follow the text book. but i can not apply the same techniques to my personal life. i feel tired, frustrated and alone