I am so sorry, Rose! When my mother got the swallowing problem the end was close. Often, choking produces neumonia. In the case of my mom, doctors did not want to put a feeding tube. Sometimes I hate that, I think that if she had had a tube she would have lived more time. But it would have been a torture for her. She was depressed and she told me so. I was not in a good shape, either. On top of that, my brother was making our lives miserable. I feel for you and I support any decision you make. I imagine the kind of hell you are going through, Rose. I am sending you a big hug