Stop. Stop. Just stop.

#1. You're 17. He's 16. You are minors. There can be legal consequences because of this.

#2. You said nothing about past abuse. Either you were abused and are afraid of sex because of this or you are not ready for sex.

You do not sound like you are ready for sex. You sound like you have NO IDEA about what it means to be sexual or intimate with someone, and you have these made up ideas about how he thinks of you which to me sounds like he is not abusing you or treating you with disrespect. You are not establishing boundaries, and you are placing the guilt on him which is HIGHLY unfair. If you do not tell him that you do not like when he touches you, then he will never treat you the way you want to be treated.

In my opinion, you should not be having sex. If you cannot handle having sex or being intimate...then DON'T be intimate! If he is a sensitive caring guy you will make him feel miserable if you don't tell him what he should or shouldn't do and because of your immaturity you will let him hurt you. He is not the one with the behavioral problem. How on earth is he supposed to know that he is hurting you if you don't tell him to!?

You're not ready for sex, so tell him you're not ready to be intimate.