I have forgiven my abusers... I did so for myself... For me, by forgiving them I shed any shame that I was carrying and placed it all back onto them.... I didnt/dont want what they did to me be my definition... to be my controllers in life... yeah I have residual effects that I probably will carry for life... but they dont define me... It wasnt easy to do... I will never forget, but now I dont dwell... I dont accept what they did as an ok thing, but I embrace the strength of accepting that I survived and that I am not at fault....