Hi MisterMatt,

I'm sorry you were treated like that, it must have been very confusing and hurtful
But I'm afraid you're going to get the same kind of thing as this "So many websites comfort, “Don’t think you’re a bad person because someone doesn’t want to be your friend.”" from me, and not wholly from the "comforting" aspect, but because I think it's true
As to why she treated you that way.........real hard to tell, maybe she felt you'd both run out of commonalities, maybe she has problems with making real connections (even if she has/makes other friends they may not all be real connections), maybe it was one of those misconceptions that "the grass is always greener on the other side", maybe she felt the friendship was getting too close (or might do for either of you)...........real hard to tell.
But it's sounding like she wasn't/isn't the true "friend" you'd given her credit for being. If she did have problems with the friendship, a true friend should be talking to you about those instead of cutting you off, and cutting you off so harshly. And even if she didn't really actually see you as that much of a friend anyway, that's still very harsh. So you know, I'd say that her behaviour says a lot more about her than about you.

And why have other friends done the same thing to you............well hard one to answer again.........but maybe it could be the types of people you let into your life???
Maybe it could be the way you managed those friendships, but like I said someone worth having a real friendship with should be telling you if there are difficulties so you can work on them together. So.........the types of people you let into your life???

But please try not to let all of this put you off trying to make other connections, and they can start very slowly, from casual encounters, no pressure.
Just when it comes to future friendships maybe have in mind certain expectations e.g. if they're your friend then you're going to be expecting them to communicate openly with you, to respect your feelings, to be there for you as much as they can..........just might reduce the risk of having "friends" let you down???
Because this does not all have to be about you.



Alison