The friend situation is baffling. If there's something that you do, do that pushes away, it'd be nice for someone to just call it like they see it. Of course, situations like that can be baffling for many to know what words to use. I have a friend that struggles with numerous attempts at friendships. I couldn't pinpoint, to even explain why that was, since I've no issues. My other friend that now works with her, finally hit the nail on the head and compassionately talked with her. She does come accross a bit needy, the dependency translated itself into the job.
I know that doesn't answer your dilemma. Came to mind while reading.