Umm... gotta say here, you sound a bit more like a jerk than they do..... You're excluding them because they won't give you 100% of what you want instantly?!?!

That's unrealistic. Just because you want something instantly doesn't mean that it's possible - honestly... it sorta sounds like a toddler and their self-centric world view.

You're not even giving people a chance for an authentic bond to form... if they don't give you it ASAP then you shun them? How could they let you in when you can't even respect their personal boundaries and give them time to develop an authentic relationship with you??