While my T has been in extensive therapy herself, she seems surprisingly unaware of how I feel in therapy at times. For instance, she thought it would be nice for me to meet her daughter, by having her daughter walk in on a session we were having about how I felt as though she didn't have enough time/energy available for me (not ok!). After her daughter left and I explained how I felt, she was like "oh, I guess I do remember it bothering me when I heard my own therapist's daughter leave a voice recording during one of my sessions. That was during the days of land line answering machines and I still remember that." I wanted to say: DUH!

She just has done a lot of things recently that are kind of insensitive and poke at my trigger points, and she doesn't seem to have any clue that it feels like she is taking a knife to my feelings. Like, after my sexual assault 3 weeks ago, she said she would give me the information on a group I might want to join for queer women who have had that experience. I REALLY want that number. It's been 3 weeks and she still hasn't given me that number and she cancelled our session today. She doesn't get that it really hurts when she forgets stuff like that is important to me and that it makes me feel like I don't matter-- especially after I told her in our last session: "it feels like I don't matter."