I'm a femme lesbian in an area where there are not a lot of gay people, so I use online dating. I have no way of judging their behavior prior to the first date. I select educated women with good jobs who use proper grammar and seem to be emotionally intelligent via email/text. The woman I went on a date with this past weekend is actually a therapist!! The woman who sexually assaulted me is a nurse. (Fyi, the only one who was drunk was the woman who assaulted me; the date this past weekend was not drunk and really didn't do anything "wrong"-- just more forward/brash than I like). I really do not think the problem is that I am attracting the wrong people to me. I've gone on plenty of dates with nice women who I just didn't "click" with. The problem is that there is a small pool of femme lesbian women in my area and the only way I know to find them is through online dating. Regardless, I'm taking a break from dating for right now.