Hi SD,

I'm not clear about what is bothering me.

I think first, if I the intense attachment I had with PrevT can fade...were the feelings real or did I manufacture them...did my neediness manufacture them because of the trauma PrevT helped me through?

And if the latter is true, what does that mean for my relationship with CurrentT? Are my feelings genuine...or just something my neediness manufactured?

Something else is bothering me. I felt secure, safe and comforted in my relationship with PrevT. She was/is so important to me. I am grieving, I guess, that I don't have that anymore.

I was/am hoping for those same feelings of security, safety and comfort with CurrentT but I am afraid I am not feeling it in the way that I hoped. It's not her fault, it's me. PreviousT was my "gravity." I don't feel that same sense of gravity.

I feel alone.