When you are the recipient of someone you love spewing forth degrading insults and hurtful language, how would you react? Would you stay calm and ignore it, or react emotionally?

I know there are different anger styles, and mine is to react explosively. Of course, according to my bf, this means I am "an emotional wreck." I guess there are some people who have the ability to maintain their cool in a situation like this, but I don't always know how to do that. It feels natural to react.

I can't help feeling. When someone hurts me, especially one I love, I cry, I yell, I break down, throw things, get physical. I become angry, but more than anything I am in pain.

I just want to not feel so intensely.

When I was a young adult, I was the opposite. I made myself turn hard like a rock, was numb and didn't feel much at all. I don't think that was healthy either.

Emotional balance seems to be key, but how to achieve it?