Sure, uncertainty is scary and the future is uncertain. Welcome to the human condition lol

The selfish/money thing... legit, in that kids are expensive and have a real impact on a person's financial future, so something to consider. It's also the kind of reason that may not hold the test of time as he lives more and what's important to him changes.

That said, it's never a good idea to continue a relationship on the premise that someone will "change."

Graduating from school and starting a career is one of those natural times when you reflect on life / what you want / what you're going to do next. Enjoy the relationship now for what it is, and when you get to that point assess where things stand with this guy as part of that. Be honest with yourself.

I moved back to a city I didn't want to live in for love. Before making that decision (I made good money, had lots of friend, nice place to live, happy where I was, but we'd been doing long distance for maybe a year and he wasn't going to move), I did a written pro/con list to help me evaluate whether or not to take this step. After I decided to move, I also decided *in advance* I'm giving it 1 year - period. At the end of the year, we were much like the beginning of the year and it could have easily gone on just like that indefinitely. Because I had decided in advance on the 1 year, when my lease renewal came around, I started thinking OK, now what? Thinking like, without this relationship, what's next, where am I going to go to live, what am I going to do for a living there, like that. Had a couple of solid options planned. then i told him something to the effect of hey, my lease expires soon, I'm not going to renew, so I'm thinking about what to do next, and since nothing's really changed/progressed with us, that includes moving away. It wasn't a ploy or anything. I seriously had decided in advance, I was giving it 1 year and moving on if nothing had changed. I was ready to pack and move and start over, was taking action to that end (picked 2 location alternatives, was looking at work opportunities at each, etc.). Anyway, ended up marrying that guy. That was 18+ years ago.