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Originally Posted by phaset
Could the lessening feelings for prevT be a sign that you are healing from your previous pain, and not a sign that there is something wrong with curT? Would it be ok for you to have a relationship with your therapist that didn't involve adoration? I think some people call this a healthy relationship, but I wouldn't know.  |
I think you are right. I think there is healing from the previous trauma.
I think a lot of things are going on. I don't feel I have figured out everything that is bothering me.
PrevT has been staying out of my therapy. our relationship is slowly changing. We are in contact less often. We mostly just catch up on what is going on..which I think I am grieving.
I am grieving the loss of the safety, stability and comfort of prevT. I have known her since 1994... Not easy for me.
CurrentT is getting ready to take a two week break and I'm feeling the dread of that....her leaving stirs things up.
I am considering my relationship with CurrentT...feeling how she is different than PrevT....feeling her strengths, as well.
I'm trying to imagine comforting and caring for myself...and I don't know how I will do it. If transference is a need being filled....the need is still there that brought me to therapy in the first place.
Maybe it will be good to have a regular relationship with PrevT.
CurrentT is going to call me in a few hours. I hope she will help me smooth out my feelings.
Thanks to everyone who responded. I appreciate all your thoughts. I think all of you have good points. A lot for me to consider.