I'm pondering what's up with my marriage. We've been so happy for 15 years. Yes, we had our ups and downs, but I've never felt a stranger in the house. Our sex life is dead, she doesn't enjoy family time any more and seems to have completely unplugged. I've read and done the exercises in at least 4 books, changed how I approach her and our union, done all the couples counseling. But i don't see her working at it.

It's obvious I'm enabling her behavior of disconnecting from the relationship because I'll come to her; chocolates on the pillow, hand -written love letters, compliments, support ... the list goes on. She says her "love bucket", how much she feels i love her, is full. Mine is empty.

I wonder if she wants it over? I'm withdrawing, there's no point to me spending the energy. I think it has to come from her side now, if it ever does.