After I was terminated I´m still looking for a T, I´ve been looking for eight months now and I feel worse as more and more times passes. I know I need a T who can deal with anger and disappointment and who understands that I need someone I can trust and get attached to.

But all I seem to find is T:s that sits in their chairs like it was some kind of coffee talk and they don´t show that much empathy. It feels like wasting time and like they don´t want to get any deeper connection with me as a client. For me that´s crucial but I don´t know how to find such a T.

I want a psychodynamic T and I´ve seen only T:s working within this kind of therapy. I´m sure about the form of therapy per se. But all T:s I´ve met with seem to work with quite "easy" problems where the client is satisfied if he/she gets to talk a little to someone.

My former T who terminated me had more of focus on creating a deeper relation and to really understand me. But it seems most T:s don´t.

I really don´t know what to ask for anymore, I´ve presented my problems to the T:s I´ve met and I´ve told them I want to work through things on a more deeper level. I understand this can´t happen immediately but noone has said like "yes, that´s the way I work".

I also need a T who can handle some anger, I´m not aggressive but I´m angry about how I was treated as a child and I have problems with feelings of abandonment and alienation. I need to talk about this and I know there´s a risk I´ll look upon the T as a person who abandons me.

I don´t want to go into psychoanalysis though but I don´t know what to really ask for, no T so far has got what I want so to speak. Any advice?