My question in all this about finding a good therapist is that when you call their office you can't find out anything. If you make an appointment, how do you know what they believe in until the therapy gets under way. It takes a lot of guts to give a T a questionaire, where many of us just don't have the nerve and knowledge, and is one reason we go to treatment.
Therapists don't pass out brochures on their treatment philosophy, and some are really rough on dependency. I had the same shallow therapists, one after the other, and went through some nightmare experiences with the attachment. I finally found a good long-term psychodynamic relationship therapist at my university clinic, but totally by accident.
Just speculating, but if there's a university within driving distance of you, they would be up on the modern, humane therapy for attachment. But if so, be sure it isn't a brief therapy, or a trainee who will ditch you when he graduates.