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Originally Posted by IceCreamKid
It isn't a matter of forgiving this man for lying to you, although it is good you have the capacity for forgiveness; that is a sign of good health.
It's that he did lie, and about something really important. That was disrespectful to you. That's red flag number one.
Getting a divorce at age 23. Red flag number two.
A mismatch in desires is red flag number 3. If you want children someday do not waste your time on someone who does not.
I interpret the not wanting to get married again as meaning "I'm willing to have sex with you, but not marry you."
I would suggest you date other people.
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People **** up. I've ****ed up tons. I'm suspicious of everything, and I'm nosey, and I snoop. He ****ed up, he knows that.
People also change. He used to have terrible self esteem, he married that girl at 18, because he was scared no one else could love him and she was the same way. Their relationship started failing because they both realized that they didn't love each other, they were just desperate for attention and affection. He's a lot more confident now, not desperate anymore. He made a stupid mistake at 18, and I will not punish him for that.
I think people can change. Marriage and kids is far off for me, I love him and what we have now, that may change, but for now I'm happy.
I know you're trying to help and I appreciate that.
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