Just wanted to say that I did my share of online dating in my 20s before I got together with my husband (met him at work). I definitely met my share of duds, where they seemed great online and even on the phone, but then in person, just eh... (or I liked them, but apparently they were just "eh" about me.) And I was in a major metropolitan area dating the opposite gender--so I can imagine it's much more difficult for you because you're dealing with a smaller pool of potential dates.

I learned that it was best to plan a fairly short activity, like coffee, with them, so if I knew immediately it was a no, then I wouldn't have to spend a long time with them (and waste both of our time).

Do you foresee any opportunity to move to a bigger city in the future?