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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
Just wanted to say that I did my share of online dating in my 20s before I got together with my husband (met him at work). I definitely met my share of duds, where they seemed great online and even on the phone, but then in person, just eh... (or I liked them, but apparently they were just "eh" about me.) And I was in a major metropolitan area dating the opposite gender--so I can imagine it's much more difficult for you because you're dealing with a smaller pool of potential dates.
I learned that it was best to plan a fairly short activity, like coffee, with them, so if I knew immediately it was a no, then I wouldn't have to spend a long time with them (and waste both of our time).
Do you foresee any opportunity to move to a bigger city in the future?
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Thanks for sharing. You hit the nail on the head. The smaller pool of available people and the inability to assess comparability before meeting are the biggest challenges. I will also try to plan SHORT dates in the future, whenever I decide to go back "on the market."
I would like to move back to a bigger city. I'm a professor in a pretty specialized subfield, so there are only so many positions available in my field. But when the opportunity to move for a job in a better city opens up, I plan to take it.