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Old Jul 08, 2015, 08:48 PM
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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight View Post
Just wanted to say that I did my share of online dating in my 20s before I got together with my husband (met him at work). I definitely met my share of duds, where they seemed great online and even on the phone, but then in person, just eh... (or I liked them, but apparently they were just "eh" about me.) And I was in a major metropolitan area dating the opposite gender--so I can imagine it's much more difficult for you because you're dealing with a smaller pool of potential dates.

I learned that it was best to plan a fairly short activity, like coffee, with them, so if I knew immediately it was a no, then I wouldn't have to spend a long time with them (and waste both of our time).

Do you foresee any opportunity to move to a bigger city in the future?
Thanks for sharing. You hit the nail on the head. The smaller pool of available people and the inability to assess comparability before meeting are the biggest challenges. I will also try to plan SHORT dates in the future, whenever I decide to go back "on the market."

I would like to move back to a bigger city. I'm a professor in a pretty specialized subfield, so there are only so many positions available in my field. But when the opportunity to move for a job in a better city opens up, I plan to take it.
Thanks for this!
LonesomeTonight