I have bipolar 1. I agree with what Christina said completely. Its not that I don't sympathize with what he is going through - I have also had a lot of jobs. A lot of life changes. This is what I think - bipolar doesn't make a person behave a way - they are what they are inside, and bipolar enhances it. A nice person with bipolar will still attempt to be considerate. A jerk will be a jerk.

I suggest you get him and you into couples counseling. What you both need to learn IMO is - you are not responsible for helping him to feel okay. Don't be his vehicle, while he tells you where to go and how fast to drive and when to turn.

Even if he wasn't bipolar, this relationship would be unbalanced because it isn't 50/50. The relationship is like a cart, and you two are the horses pulling it. Make sure you don't have a lazy horse that wants you to do all the work.

Honey, you will be lugging that lazy horse around your whole life unless the dynamics of the relationship change.