Hi christina, sorry for slow response, very busy on vacation. Yes I am considering a therapist. My ex took them to a therapist after the divorce for a matter that just needed to be talked about as a family. I was not against them seeing a therapist and I think it helped. But the problem was my ex painted me as the bad guy and the therapist was totally against me and bought my ex's story hook line and sinker. I have been to therapist before myself, and I have never run into a therapist who was so biased and unprofessional in my life. I had to call in and cancel a appointment with her and my girls because my mother was in a nursing home with dementia and received a call they needed me there. When I called to cancel the appointment I got lectured about how irresponsible I was cancelling the appointment. I argued with her for 20 minutes about why I had to cancel and her attitude on it. I have heard in the therapist circles and others in the community that know her that she has a reputation of not being well received, more or less my negative opinion of her is not alone. But my ex has the therapist wrapped around her finger. My girls hated the therapist, I sat down with my girls and talked to them and sorted out the problem ourselves. Everything was my fault and I was the sole problem in the opinion of my ex and the therapist. My ex is never at fault for anything it seems. We don't communicate much anymore because everything is my fault and leads to arguements. I have always tried to get along and work with the ex whether I like her or not. My ex doesn't care whether the girls literally hate the therapist or not, to me this isn't healthy. I am trying to find a alternate therapist which will lead to more problems. My oldest daughter doesn't talk to her mother about problems because the mother doesn't listen, has to always be right and makes my daughter feel at fault or stupid. So my daughter talks to me alot, she says I am the only one that she can talk to. I agree a third party would be a good idea for her to talk to. She can't even talk to the ex's mother or father (grandparents) because of the same thing, it's her fault and she's the problem, my daughter according to them. The ex has changed so much and I am really beginning to believe turning evil. This is all so ridiculous and stupid, ex seems to be only concerned with her opinions and maintaining some sort of control. I really am waking up to a lot of this by what my girls experience with their mother and realize I experienced the same thing, I don't know if it's denial on some sort of codependency dance that I was not aware of. I grew up in a very dysfunctional family and now know that you can be unaware of some manipulation if you grew up in a manipulative dysfunctional childhood...duh. The girls really do pretty well but I see some problems and don't want them to go thru what I did growing up. They are much more balanced and mature than I was at their age. It makes me sick that I was fooled for so long and didn't see this. This is not what I imagined or planned for my kids. But the way my ex was raised, the way her parents act it all fits a pattern and she is carrying it on. I have fought to stop my family's dysfunction even though I didn't quite understand what was happening. So yes I am seeking therapy plus someone that they are close to for them to trust.