Yea, thing is I only enjoy wine on my own. I never drink socially. I basically do need a lot of own time. The problem is you can't create rules with her, she is not the type. It's actually quite hard to explain how someone isn't "normal" like that, and you can't just make people understand and accept either. She most likely has some kind of autism. I have learned that we do not HAVE boundaries in this friendship, LOL. I have to take the good with the bad. And would I evict her from my life? Hell no, she is way to valuable. I rarely find people I can share any real thoughts with, and I can with her.

I have tried the boundary thing, I have tried to explain the rules. She simply doesn't get it. She has major issues generalizing a specific rule. And I can't make rules for every situation that might come up. People tell me to be stubborn with my rules but it is basically like trying to outstubborn a cat. I guess that is why I even accept her in my life. She reminds me of a cat. (She actually CAN meow and purr as well, no kidding.)

She will start treatment end of summer and I hope she will be at least half back to her normal physical self, at least if she cannot work a lot maybe she can hook up with a group to do activities. Right now she is basically trapped in her brain and her body restricts most things. My world is basically internal, but hers is external. She has to DO things to fully exist.

I will also be kind to her since the treatment IS risky and might wound up killing her.

Anyway, I'm not making any huge changes in my life until I know where her treatments will take her. IF... she cannot be treated, then we're talking about something different, then she will have to expand her interests and circle of friends to have daily activities she can actually do. But I don't want to go there prematurely.