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Originally Posted by Underground
I have been thinking lately about finding a therapist once again. I just have had two of them already and neither was a good fit. With that being said it felt like such a waste of time and it doesn't give me hope for the next. Some tips on finding the right therapist would be appreciated. I was also thinking it may be best to not tell a therapist about my disorder so this way there wouldn't be any pre-judgement. Thoughts on this?
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My advice on the therapist (or the limited experience I have jumping through hoops to get the right therapist) is to use the therapist search feature at the Psychology Today site (
https://therapists.psychologytoday.com ) for your area, and try to find someone who lists experience with NPD. What's cool is that you can filter by issues and treatment approach. I suggest someone who works with NPD, and preferably someone who uses Psychoanalytic or Psycho-dynamic therapy.
Those aside, we aren't powerless to affect personal growth. I highly recommend the following books.
This book might be the most practical in terms of a straightforward understanding of how to recognize and disarm ego defenses:
Why Do I Do That?: Psychological Defense Mechanisms and the Hidden Ways They Shape Our Lives – by Joseph Burgo Ph.D.
I also noticed you mentioned anger. Anger is normal (i.e. it doesn't come from nowhere. For example, you may feel disrespected, or misunderstood. Or you may not know where it came from, and its source is repressed guilt or shame that hasn't been processed thoroughly). It's what you do with anger that can be destructive. This is something I used to struggle with more, but was gradually able to work toward healthier outlets with thanks to self-policing and processing tools in the following book:
The Anger Trap: Free Yourself from the Frustrations that Sabotage Your Life by Dr. Les Carter
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