I haven't asked. Im not sure I'm even open to the idea yet. That's why I didn't bring it up. I'm still too angry and upset to talk calmly to him. We've barely spoken since his last outburst 4 days ago. Im 52 and just want some peace. I'm so sick of trusting the wrong people. Did I do it again? Im too nice. I hear it all of the time. It's a real problem for me.

I'm thinking I might go back to therapy with a new therapist by myself first. My meds doctor works in the same practice as the therapist I'm considering and specializes in PTSD.

After decades of caring for other people (also former inner city middle school teacher), I'm thinking me, me, me. Is that horrible? My daughter is grown.

I had to give up therapy for a while so that I could afford med checks and scripts. Now that we're out of Ch 13, I have no excuse.
Does that sound like an excuse to not get marriage counseling?