In my experience communication takes alot of time and practice to accomplish.

I had to literally learn to "open up" my mind. I couldn't achieve that, though, until all was known to me. In my case, I realized that it was me that was keeping mind closed, compartmentalized. See, I would tap into something, shock and fear, then dissociate...my known way. I had to keep touching it, getting less shocky each time to lessen the immediate dissociation.

Once I had the whole story and touched on alot of the emotion there, I was able to open up my mind...I guess acceptance?

Like with the "average person", there are parts of me that aren't around all the time. With these parts, it's a guess as to whether or not I can communicate when I need to. However, with the regularly used parts of me, it's open doors throughout pretty much...communication.

I guess my answer, in short, would be to "go there"...hear the stories, the ugly, touch the feelings, know what's there.

HUGE thing to do I know. Don't think I'm saying it's easy...whew.

Love,

KD