I think it's got to be a tough issue to figure out the right time to tell someone you're interested in. I didn't have to do that, because I wasn't dx with bipolar until nearly 10 years into our marriage. My husband has been super supportive, but I've felt (even before the bp, when I knew I struggled with depression but didn't recognize the hypo) that it was unfair to him to have to deal with a lot of my instability and unpredictability. After my bp dx, it was hard on me feeling like he married into far more than he bargained for. I wish I had known before hand that I had this and had both some experience of how to work with it on my own and a fair representation to give him of what it would be like for him and things he might have to contend with or help with. I felt like he wasn't able to have both eyes open getting into this marriage, since I didn't even have both eyes open.

Sometimes I have a more forgiving view of it all. He definitely helps with that. But if I had it to do over again and I knew what I do now, I don't know when would have been the right time to have that conversation. I agree with CopperStar - it's certainly not something to bring up on the first few dates. But there's a lot of very personal information I wouldn't introduce in the early days - I would want to know there's some sort of potential for a relationship, and I'd want to really get a feel for the kind of person I'm seeing. There would need to be a lot of trust there for me first.

Sounds like you didn't need more than 1 date with this woman to get a good feel for the kind of person she is. Jupiter3 has it perfectly - you seriously dodged a bullet. Hope your next date is with someone lovely!