My apologies for not seeing this thread until now. I also notice that you are a new member. Sometimes once a thread is released from moderation, it is spotted by the date that it was written and get become overlooked by other active threads.

I guess to answer, sometimes all any of us can do in a new relationship is go with the flow. Each person has some form of rejection/abandonment trigger, it's human. For someone with bpd, as you mentioned yourself as having, try to be mindful of overthinking fears, not let your imagination get the better of you, so to speak, that's fear based. If she texted you, safe to say at an even level.

How have things progressed since?