Even the happiest of couples have been known to fight a lot, according to my own research with a number of them for my recent popular book, LOVING IN FLOW. It's not how you fight that matters most, but how you "repair" after the fight. If you can clear the air afterward, that counts the most.

But it seems you two really need some help with your styles of talking. What worked for my husband and me was to use what I call a "talking pillow." It's just a little pillow, but you can use anything, just so long as it's not sharp! That's because when you have the pillow, the other person has to be quiet and really listen closely. Then when you're finished talking, you give (or toss) the pillow to your partner.

We only use the talking pillow when one of us is having trouble being heard, but you two seem like you need it NOW.

Counseling might be useful, depending on the counselor, but we found that this wasn't the answer for us. If you can both practice not interrupting, that will be a good start. It takes effort and attention to be good talkers and listeners. I wish you luck!

Susan K. Perry, Ph.D.
http://www.BunnyApe.com/lovinginflow.htm
Author of <font color=red> LOVING IN FLOW: How the Happiest Couples Get and Stay That Way </font color=red>