It's pretty darn upsetting to feel that your mother doesn't like you very much. So, no, I don't think you are being over sensitive. But I don't think there's a lot you can do about the distance between you and your mother. There may not be a lot you can do about the distance between you and your daughter either. I'ld advise you to build your life around your relationship with your partner. Any thoughts of marrying this lady?

It would be appropriate to, now and then, make an overture toward getting together with mum or daughter. That's about all you can do. It's entirely possible that your mother does like your sister more than she likes you. My mother did not care much for my brother, and didn't overly encourage him to come around. Once, when he stopped by, she even encouraged him to leave as she was expecting other family guests for dinner. She told him she didn't have enough food to ask him and his girlfriend to stay. That was baloney, my mother always cooked plenty. She just didn't want to be bothered with him, while she was socializing with her other guests. It broke my heart to even hear about that incident. I felt so bad for my brother. It was something I couln't fix.

Build relationships with people who really want to spend time with you. Make the obligatory courtesy calls to family, and keep your expectations low. My parents wouldn't let me drive their vehicles, either, though they did let one of my sisters. Sometimes, that's just how it is.