((Sunny))

Well, I actually chuckled as I wrote up the phone routine and it was exactly like that. I even laughed in the car. And, by the way, when I told T he was wrong about the appointment he was so defensive and said he wasn't.

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I like also how he sensed the lack of connection and tried to get it by asking you that question. Great T.

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Oh, he is like a freaking detective. He hunts me down wherever I may go.....right in front of him!!

A point of clarification. When I told him to shut up it wasn't said really mean or angry, but just stated matter of factly.

However, this is the first time I have ever expressed anger at him.

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It's not like just because he is going out of town it is a personal assault on me or he is doing it specifically to hurt me. Why would this make me angry? You know, I am the one who isn't even angry that her husband has been unfaithful and screwed around with babes behind her back for years. I have never been angry about that. Really, sometimes I wonder if there is something wrong with me. I mean, if I can't get angry with my husband for his infidelity, why would I get angry at T for taking a week off?

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So, Sunny, are you saying you can only get angry of the event was intentionally directed at you? Could you get angry if there was a thunderstorm and lightening hit your house? Could you get angry if you slipped on the ice and broke your ankle? Hmmm

Why aren't you be angry at your husband? I think it's worth exploring, you might be surprised at what you come up with. Mind you, most of my anger is still way down deep.