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My friend is older than me. She's in her early 50's. She really is a nice person, but I think that she may think that fat people are a certain way, and certainly not attractive apparently. Ironically she thinks that I'm pretty. I agree with you, it is shallow and immature.

I don't put up with much crap from others. She truly is a nice person, but she grew up in Asia where there is a lot more pressure to be thin. I don't think that she meant to be mean. I think that she's just kind of ignorant when it comes to some things. Also, being successful and having money tends to be more important than anywhere else that I know of for those of you who might not be aware of that.

I think that she could be a bit more tactful. Otherwise, she is a sweet and kind person as hard as that it to believe. Next time she mentions my weight, I'll just let her know that I know that I'm fat and to please not remind me of it again. How can I let her know that I don't like her comments w/o becoming defensive nicely? Is that a good way to let her know to not cross that line with me or not?

I actually used to have an eating disorder, and I told her about it. I guess that she forgot about that. Also, I have managed to loose 30 lbs. last year. I'm stuck at a plateau since I don't work out anymore, but I normally eat healthy and I rarely eat fast food or processed stuff, so these stereotypes about fat people are just silly assumptions. I'd have to really work really hard to loose weight, but I gain weight so easily!

Us fatty's have feelings too! And not all of us eat to much! Some people do have slow metabolisms and bad genes. Of course, most thin people probably think these are all excuses. Even she is gaining weight now due to being older, but it's not obvious to me. Perhaps she's projecting some insecurities about becoming fat to me, idk.