I'm a similar size, height, weight as you.

The only people who've ever actually called me fat are my family.

I do not like how my body is. I don't. But no one else has any right to criticize me.

Your "friend" sounds like a passive-aggressive b****. I've got friends who are larger, smaller, "uglier", prettier, different race, different style of dress/hygiene etc.... none of them care about my appearance, and I don't care about theirs.

What we DO care about is how the other person feels, and encouraging them to see themselves in a more positive light if they're having problems.

The only people I've ever had comment on anything about my appearance has been, well, my students. To which I respond with either "Thanks for noticing," or "Does it matter?".

I'm so sorry you've been exposed to such a shallow, judgemental person.