Tucker...maybe a good starting place is to start right down some things...if you have a journal...in that...

Write about your feelings, what you want to do that makes you happy, how you react to others requests/demands/other, how would you like to react to these, what would it mean to you "that they understand"

Just some quick thoughts...I think anything on paper would be a good start to figuring out boundaries.

P.S. Remember that honoring thy mother and father applies when they do things that honor God. In some cases many parents have ripped up their father/mother cards by not following what Jesus would do. Just added this final thought as you mentioned your upbringing.