Hello AB. I sincerely hope that you will get some professional help to help you to move on with your own life, since your ex obviously has some issues to work on himself, through the chices he has made for himself. I hope that you will seek professional therapy since there is so much help out there at this time when you feel like someone has violated you through deception such as your Ex has done to you. I look forward ingetting to know you better and welcome to Psych Central. Take care and good day. Soidhonia