You've been with your boyfriend long enough for the initial passion to cool down -- that's so normal. All relationships go through such stages. Don't let THAT be the deciding factor. What else have you got going for you with him? Do you find him downright unappealing now, or is it simply that the fireworks have dimmed a little or a lot? I can't help you decide whether he's the right one for you, but please don't make a decision only because you feel time pressing. Maybe a smaller wedding, later on, would give you time to think about this and get more input. And to talk openly with him! A good friend of mine went to her boyfriend's house to break up with him for the same reasons you describe, and his response was so understanding, so vulnerable and so supportive, that she changed her mind and now they're getting married in a couple months and they seem like a really good couple.

Susan K. Perry, Ph.D.
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