Okay I see from your later post she isn't western by birth so this may have a cultural aspect. Perhaps her manners are different, as well as her attitudes.

Firstly, no I don't agree. I'm sporty and athletic build, many of the people I know are too, but quite a few of my friends are not. If I discriminated against people by their body type it would be stupid of me, I would miss out on terrific friendships.

Some of my friends struggle with losing weight and if they talk about it I support them but otherwise do not bring it up. I do realise it's not easy for everyone to lose weight and respect that is a challenge they are facing.

As for the other point about not having a career/working, I can say that as a one time stay-at-home mom I encountered that, it can be isolating. People often identify through their occupations, for so many it's 'who we are', also lots of people form social networks/friendships through workplaces. It's not like people disrespected me because I didn't have that, more that we didn't have that point in common to talk about. So yes, I think there's some truth in it being harder to make friendships when you aren't in a workplace.