I'm from an intact family but, nonetheless, feel unaccepted. My mother had problems when I was very young and I don't think I attached the way I should have. While not estranged, I do feel disconnected from my family. People who tell us all to "get over it" are probably hiding their own hurt. I, for one, think it's much better to open up, at least to those who are trustworthy. Opening up is the only way to get to the connectedness we need.