You do sound depressed. Maybe not horribly so, but enough to sap your energy and motivation and to make it hard to see any point in life's activities.

May I ask why you're living in SoCal and if you have the option to move away from there if you don't like it? Being in a place that isn't right for us is energy-draining. Sometimes we don't have the option to move away and have to work around that, but if moving is possible, it can be helpful.

I see the word "happy" a lot in your post. This is going to sound dumb, but in what sense to you mean "happy"? Feeling happy, being satisfied, other?

I ask because I think there are many other words to describe a good life.

Are you able to think about medium and long-term goals? Depression makes it harder to do that, but do you now or have you in the past had goals for what you want to do in your for work/career, relationships, children, where you want to live/home ownership, social network, volunteer work, money, etc?