Yes, that does happen where one is tired about talking about the trauma in their history. It can seem to bring up the uncomfortable feelings and emotions that go along with whatever is in that history.

For myself, I have been dealing with a long drawn out situation where a trauma is literally kept in the "now" with my lawsuit. I have also been involved in some family challenges that have brought challenges from my history into the "now" too.

I think what is important is not so much about talking about one's history over and over, but instead working through whatever challenged you that you can learn to gain new skills at in resolving and functioning in the now, in spite of whatever did take place in your history that hurt you in some way.

What took place with your father was "traumatic" and experiencing something like that is a challenge to slowly heal from. Healing is realizing that you cannot change what took place, you cannot take that trauma away from being part of your life experience either, however, you can grieve that, and slowly come to a point that you can find your way to moving forward in "your own life" aside from that experience. It is VERY important you do not conclude that you are doomed the same path he took, instead you will work through that and help yourself and even others in ways he did not find a way to do. We ARE all separate from each other in that we can actually do "better" or "more than" a parent on our own life path. Actually, we are designed to do just that but "patience" is the key, and I know it can be hard some days, even very depressing, some of that is "normal" and it doesn't mean you have to retreat from moving forward. We learn to do that one day at a time, whether we realize it or not, it's in our design.