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Originally Posted by ~Christina
I think you are just making life much harder than it really needs to be. You find fault in almost every ones advice. Life isn't always fair its not always going to give you what you desire on a silver platter with a pretty red bow... Its life, it is what YOU make it.
You can sit around and play the blame game, its your inability to dance, you dont like to drink , you have a mole, Im 27 it's unacceptable for me to date younger woman, I don't like bars, etc etc
The fact is you have never been in a relationship,you have nothing to base your beliefs on besides inaccurate data that makes no sense that you seem lap up around the internet on yahoo and whatever, even here... and it doesn't even apply. Maybe you sent off bad vibes, maybe you act strangely or make them uncomfortable or hell maybe you smell bad..
For goodness sake.... people are dating that have lost limbs , Blind, deaf, in wheelchairs and have life altering illness... Sure you want a hot gorgeous girlfriend, you want to play the field and have fun.. Then drop all the bullshyt reasons that you "cant" and go do ! Just go start talking to women, asking them out , you have NOTHING to lose, nothing , Your not going out on dates now , so suck it up and go DO instead of bellyache.
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What Christina said! Plus: Your therapist can explore the whys and wherefores of your obsession with youth (I'd start with the sex aspect and the power aspect)
and if you haven't gotten out of the starting gate
yet after all this time with whoever you are seeing now, I think it is time to find a healthy
heterosexual male therapist and tell him that you want specific help in developing fun relationships with gals.
And there are tons of places to meet women! Do you live near a beach? Wonderful place to soak up some sun, sightsee, and have pleasant conversations with pretty gals.
Get your hair cut at a salon that caters to men and women.
Go grocery shopping at a local market that advertises healthy stuff. Lots of gals are into healthy living.
Visit a no kill cat shelter. Gals love kittens. Go often. Volunteer.
Volunteer at an organization --the Red Cross, Habitat for Humanity, your local symphony orchestra, Special Olympics.
Get a dog and go to a dog park. A lovely friend of mine just got a dog and she is interested in the idea of meeting a nice man. See?
Attend local cooking classes, wine tastings, festivals. I know you said you don't drink. A wine tasting isn't the same thing as going to a bar and doing shots until you're under the table.
Join a dating service and state you are looking for a friend who would enjoy movies and dining at casual restaurants.
Go to the public library. You can walk around and see where the pretty gals are, and check out a book or cd and ask about book discussion groups.
If you don't have religious objections to dance, take dance lessons. You can also take fitness classes.
The key is to put yourself where young women are; to have fun or meet your own objective (a hair cut, a cd, getting your groceries) while you are looking for someone to meet.